Just Another Bend In Journey of Life
Thursday, April 06, 2006
As my world turnsWell the past couple of weeks I've learned that you should never judge a book by it's cover and also, even though I try to be VERY open minded and not stereotype-- I do.
I've always said that I'd never date anyone younger than me because they're, for the most part, immature and I just can't deal with that. I need to have someone with some ambition in their life and want things for themself. Most of the time, especially around here, I find that most of the single men, especially the young ones, are bar flies. I hate that more than you can even imagine. I mean, is that what they look forward to all week? Going to the bar on Friday and Saturday nights and getting sloshed!? Now I do admit, I like to go out occasionally. Who doesn't? I just can't see doing it each and every weekend. My partying days like that have been over for at least 5 years. Turned 21, got a couple good years out of it, became a mom and poof! All done. Anyway, so for, oh geez, maybe 4 1/2 years my sisters friend has been trying to get her to set me up with him. Never gonna happen. He's almost 4 years younger than me, has no kids, etc... Knowing that alone made me want to stay away from him. I'm not going to start dating someone and then end up in a pissing match some years down the road about him wanting kids. Well anyway, of course I flirt with the guy whenever I see him... Just because I can. Cruel and heartless I know. We were at the bar one night and he was quite lit. He came up to me and just started telling me everything he thought. Everything about me. Things that I NEVER in a million years thought I'd hear out of his mouth because he's so shy. I was floored. We talked for a bit that night but I didn't think anything of it to be honest, other than how nice it was to know that someone actually looked at me the way he does.
Well I got a bit tipsy at an event a while back and ended up doing things that I probably shouldn't have. Although I'll have to admit that his mom and his sister were both there that night and I told both of them why I'd never date him. Flat out, plain and simple with no sugar coating what so ever. Every single reason I had. I ended up telling him the same thing later that night. Ok, fast forward a few weeks. I see him again at the wedding, it's very awkward but I'm stuck on the fact that he's young and childless etc... He is extremely shy so I knew he'd never come up and talk to me so I took the initiative and talked to him first. Everything was ok. We talked and flirted all night....
Ok, so after the first event he'd called me and I'd talked to him briefly, more or less blew him off to be honest. I just thought here's this quiet guy who I have nothing in common with what so ever, why in the world would I do this to him? Well all I can say is that over the past couple of weeks (after the wedding) we've talked quite a bit and I've gotten to know him as a person. He is so night and day compared to how I thought he was. He actually talks, he has a good job, he loves his family and is very family oriented. He doesn't live at home, which is a plus. He actually took off from here after he graduated and was gone for about 5 years maybe. That right there goes to show me that he's not afraid of change. So many people from here refuse to leave. They're too scared... I guess I'll have to update you more later...
On the flip side of things. The weather is finally getting better. It was about 60 and sunny yesterday. Today I haven't been out but it looks like it's probably about the same. Hell, I'm just happy that spring is finally here!!!!!
More later.
